The greatest defense against the lies, back stabbing, dishonesty, psychological mistreatment of your daughter is
THE LIGHT OF DAY.
"Whether with a narcissist a week, a month, a year, a decade, or a half of a century, one thing is for sure...one day you will wake up to the revelation that it was all just a figment of your imagination." ~Tigress Luv
And we have.
"Ironically, if the narcissist sees that you don't love her anymore she will then be intent on making you hate her. Either way, she will feel powerful in her complete control over you. The one thing that narcissists can't stand is apathy - towards her ." ~Tigress Luv
8. She’s a liar in too many ways to count. Any time she talks about something that has emotional significance for her, it’s a fair bet that she’s lying. Lying is one way that she creates conflict in the relationships and lives of those around her - she’ll lie to them about what other people have said, what they’ve done, or how they feel. She’ll lie about her relationship with them, about your behavior or about your situation in order to inflate herself and to undermine your credibility.
The narcissist is very careful about how she lies. To outsiders she’ll lie thoughtfully and deliberately, always in a way that can be covered up if she’s confronted with her lie. She spins what you said rather than makes something up wholesale. She puts dishonest interpretations on things you actually did. If she’s recently done something particularly egregious she may engage in preventative lying: she lies in advance to discount what you might say before you even say it. Then when you talk about what she did you’ll be cut off with “I already know all about it…your mother told me... (self-justifications and lies).” Because she is so careful about her deniability, it may be very hard to catch her in her lies and the more gullible of her friends may never realize how dishonest she is.
http://daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/characteristics-of-narcissistic-mothers.html
Course, that goes for her kinfolks, near and far.
The Narcissist - Running on Empty - Out of Gas
With all of his grandiosity, hubris, excessive self-entitlement and trappings of success, the narcissist behind his false persona is psychologically empty. "The narcissist's experience of emotional emptiness is beyond longing or sadness. It is a ...pain so savage and deep that it seems intolerable." On the outside the narcissist wears a convincing facade that he shows the world and believes is his true reality. These feelings of emptiness are unconscious but they are activated in every aspect of his personal and professional life. The darkness behind the mask appears in the narcissist's perpetual outbursts of rage, his paranoia, his desperate hunger to fill the emptiness with accolades and the adoration of a golden circle of admirers, his hatred of those who are capable of giving and receiving love, and a deep self-loathing that beneath it all, he is a fraud.
by: Linda Martinez-Lewi holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology
"Narcissism is an evil that masquerades as good. Like a Pied Piper this master illusionist can lead you to Hell all while making you feel flattered to be chosen to go there. Only when you wake up in Hell do you realize the real evil that existed in his fluted song. By then it's too late; not only have you fallen victim, but most likely you have paid for the flute, as well." ~Tigress Luv
disclaimer: Many of these quotes are about the male narcissist in lives. That has been change to HER, that is the bane of our life. Tigress Luv is a poster/publisher that I presume was involved with a narcissist friend/lover/mate. So, men must have this mental disorder too. You just hear less about it, I guess..or I'm not looking for them. I have my own to protect from this. Should I neglect to give credit, please remind me.
"The silent treatment is a method people use to 'murder' someone without leaving a visible corpse behind." ~ Tigress Luv
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