Traits of a Milignant Narcissist that apply

Of the 20 (twenty) traits of a Malignant Narcissist, here is a pull-set that applies to this family.

1. THE PATHOLOGICAL LIAR is skillfully deceptive and very convincing. Avoids accountability by diverting topics, dodging questions, and making up new lies, bluffs or threats when questioned. Her memory is self serving as she denies past statements. Constant chaos and diverting from reality is their chosen environment.
Defense Strategy: Verify her words. Do not reveal anything about yourself - she'll use it against you. Head for the door when things don't add up. Don't ask her questions - you'll only be inviting more lies.

Example: In progress

 2. THE CONTRACT BREAKER agrees to anything then turns around and does the opposite. Marriage, Legal, Custody agreements, normal social/personal protocol are meaningless. This con artist will accuse you of being the contract breaker. Enjoys orchestrating legal action and playing the role of the 'poor me' victim.
Defense Strategy: Expect her to disregard any agreement. Have Plan B in place. Protect yourself financially and emotionally.

Example: Trade the land and trees, then try and sell the trees to keep your gigglo.


 7. THE CONTROLLER/MANIPULATOR pits people against each other. Keeps his allies and targets separated. Is verbally skillful at twisting words and actions. Is charismatic and usually gets his way. Often undermines our support network and discourages us from seeing our family and friends. Money is often his objective. Other people's money is even better. He is ruthless, demanding and cruel. This control-freak bully wants you pregnant, isolated and financially dependent on him. Appears pitiful, confused and in need of help. We rush in to help him with our finances, assets, and talents. We may be used as his proxy interacting with others on his behalf as he sets us up to take the fall or enjoys the performance he is directing.
Defense Strategy: Know the 'nature of the beast'. Facing his failure and consequences will be his best lesson. Be suspicious of his motives, and avoid involvement. Don't bail him out.

Example: If you don't own the property, you can't give it away to the numb nuts thats trying to get it. Come on John........

 17. THE EMOTIONAL VACUUM is the cruelest blow of all. We learn his lack of empathy. He has deceived us by his cunning ability to mimic human emotions. We are left numbed by the realization. It is incomprehensible and painful. We now remember times we saw his cold vacant eyes and when he showed odd reactions. Those closest to him become objectified and expendable.
Defense Strategy: Face the reality. They can deceive trained professionals.

Example:

 11. THE SADIST is now the fully unmasked malignant narcissist. His objective is watching us dangle as he inflicts emotional, financial, physical and verbal cruelty. His enjoyment is all too obvious. He'll be back for more. His pleasure is in getting away with taking other people's assets. His target: women, children, the elderly, anyone vulnerable.
Defense Strategy: Accept the Jekyll/Hyde reality. Make a "No Contact' rule. Avoid him altogether. End any avenue of vulnerability. Don't allow thoughts of his past 'good guy' image to lessen the reality of his disorder. 

Isolate the problem, distance yourself with each passing day. Know your enemy as well as yourself. Show no empathy or sympathy. sad, it is.