Lessons learned in life, continued

At some point you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life.

1 Timothy 5:8 “Whoever does not care for his own relatives, especially his own family members, has turned against the faith and is worse than someone who does not believe in God.” (NCV)

One time I had one of our three wheelers in the Honda shop after having one of the kids drive it into a mudhole where just the handle bars stuck out. He was a large burly man in his late 20's. I watched him work and we talked. Seems he has brothers and he and one just don't get along a-tall.  He told me of some of the incidents at family gatherings and they indeed fell under the "ain't it awful" heading. Then he told me this. I have remembered it ever since.

"I guess I just have to learn to love my brother from a distance."

And I guess that's true in families, over and over again. They are just not like minded in many things. Then when money gets into the mix. Its much worse.


23. She destroys your relationships. Narcissistic mothers are like tornadoes: wherever they touch down families are torn apart and wounds are inflicted. Unless the father has control over the narcissist and holds the family together, adult siblings in families with narcissistic mothers characteristically have painful relationships. Typically all communication between siblings is superficial and driven by duty, or they may never talk to each other at all. In part, these women foster dissension between their children because they enjoy the control it gives them. If those children don’t communicate except through the mother, she can decide what everyone hears. Narcissists also love the excitement and drama they create by interfering in their children’s lives. Watching people’s lives explode is better than soap operas, especially when you don’t have any empathy for their misery.

http://daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/characteristics-of-narcissistic-mothers.html